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Remember that Elder that stopped by my house in December ?
by troubled mind inwell i ran into him at the grocery store the other night ......why is it that my throat still tightens up and i get this anxious laugh when i talk to him ?
i want to be confident and assertive ,but ultimately i end up acting like a blubbering idiot !.
backstory is that he stopped by in december because i had put winter decorations out on my porch and he wanted to know if we were indeed celebrating christmas now .
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Funny book review for "The Secret"
by palmtree67 ini was searching on amazon for books and came across this review.9,248 of 9,637 people found the following review helpful:the secret saved my life!, december 4, 2007by ari brouillette (kensington, ca united states) - see all my reviews.
this review is from: the secret (hardcover) please allow me to share with you how "the secret" changed my life and in a very real and substantive way allowed me to overcome a severe crisis in my personal life.
it is well known that the premise of "the secret" is the science of attracting the things in life that you desire and need and in removing from your life those things that you don't want.
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Did you go on to read his other book reviews ? What a character
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Remember that Elder that stopped by my house in December ?
by troubled mind inwell i ran into him at the grocery store the other night ......why is it that my throat still tightens up and i get this anxious laugh when i talk to him ?
i want to be confident and assertive ,but ultimately i end up acting like a blubbering idiot !.
backstory is that he stopped by in december because i had put winter decorations out on my porch and he wanted to know if we were indeed celebrating christmas now .
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It feels like a dagger in my heart everytime this Brother talks to me .
I loved his family at one time . I sat in a closet with his wife when she had a breakdown ,I talked her through several depressive episodes . Cared for their infant daughter while Mom was going through postpartum depression . Worked with them when they started a new business . He was our book study conductor in our home for eight years . Then we were at their house over ten yrs. When our son had a major problem he was the only Brother that showed kindness to him .
I know the last few years of being an active witness I began to push people away ,because in the back of my mind I knew I was leaving . So I guess I feel a need of closure maybe . I would just like to really Talk to this person ,but on a REAL level not the faking crap people just want you to say ,but honest truth . Maybe that is not possible ...
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Turning the tables on the Elders
by Darth plaugeis ini would love to hear your experiences when this worked out for you.
i had a great turning of the tables when i was 22. the con.
went out to a park for picnics, softball, that sort of thing.
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This was something that happened to another Sister not me . She was separated fron her non-witness husband and was seen (by the paranoid pioneer stalker in the hall) having dinner with another man in a local restrurant !!! Oh the horrors of it all !!!
The Elders made a big fuss pulled her into the backroom for interrogation ....low and behold it was her visiting fleshly brother not a new boyfriend..... .Oh damn it all to hell ...crushed the soap opera drama for the car groups that week let me tell you .
BUT of course it was suggested to her that she still needed to be careful of giving the wrong appearances to others !!!!!!!!!!! WTF Now you have to worry about being out in public with a family member of the opposite sex ! sheesh
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Remember that Elder that stopped by my house in December ?
by troubled mind inwell i ran into him at the grocery store the other night ......why is it that my throat still tightens up and i get this anxious laugh when i talk to him ?
i want to be confident and assertive ,but ultimately i end up acting like a blubbering idiot !.
backstory is that he stopped by in december because i had put winter decorations out on my porch and he wanted to know if we were indeed celebrating christmas now .
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You mentioned that your husband stopped going to the meetings because he didn't want to go without you, what is his view now on WT doctrine? Does he agree with your findings about it?
He has never really looked into doctrines himself . I have told him a few things that I have discovered especially about the blood issue ,but he never has been clear what his ideas are on the matter . His main problem with the witnesses is the lack of true love and hypocrisy . He is also beginning to realize how much he missed out on as a teen because of the restrictive lifestyle . His Mom became a witness after she divorced his Father . His Dad practically disowned him for going with her and becoming a Witness too . My husband was a teenager during this time and had been in track and football in school ,but once his Mom became a witness all the school activities ended . He resents that to this day....he now referee's High School football and loves it . He is a very non verbal type person , so I really never know for sure what he is thinking when it comes to his religious beliefs anymore .....kind of weird huh
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Who do you consider as a friend ??
by troubled mind inwhen we were witnesses every other witness was our "friend" ,but more often than not they were just aquantinces involved in the same religion as we were .
at the time i felt i would have given my life for others in my hall .
i tried very hard to be a good friend to others by showing personal interest in their lives and offering encouragement or help when they needed it ,but i never really felt a real connection with most .. i always wanted to have a friend and be the type of friend that could just stop by to shoot the breeze at anytime and feel welcome .
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When we were witnesses every other witness was our "friend" ,but more often than not they were just aquantinces involved in the same religion as we were . At the time I felt I would have given my life for others in my hall . I tried very hard to be a good friend to others by showing personal interest in their lives and offering encouragement or help when they needed it ,but I never really felt a real connection with most .
I always wanted to have a friend and be the type of friend that could just stop by to shoot the breeze at anytime and feel welcome . Maybe i was looking for family instead of friendship possibly Ihave the two confused ?
With friends among those at the hall l had to always be on guard so as to not offend ..... Many times friendship was based upon how spiritual you were perceived as being ...We laughed we cried togehter we raised our children together ,but still something was missing .....what was that ?
I have only one or two people in my life now that I really consider as close friends .People that I would drop everything for to go help or that i know I can be open and honest without fear of rejection because my opinion is different than theirs .
What about you ?
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Remember that Elder that stopped by my house in December ?
by troubled mind inwell i ran into him at the grocery store the other night ......why is it that my throat still tightens up and i get this anxious laugh when i talk to him ?
i want to be confident and assertive ,but ultimately i end up acting like a blubbering idiot !.
backstory is that he stopped by in december because i had put winter decorations out on my porch and he wanted to know if we were indeed celebrating christmas now .
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Yes yknot I always do feel better after I write my thoughts out ,it is a relief ...
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Remember that Elder that stopped by my house in December ?
by troubled mind inwell i ran into him at the grocery store the other night ......why is it that my throat still tightens up and i get this anxious laugh when i talk to him ?
i want to be confident and assertive ,but ultimately i end up acting like a blubbering idiot !.
backstory is that he stopped by in december because i had put winter decorations out on my porch and he wanted to know if we were indeed celebrating christmas now .
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WOW heartbreaker that pretty much hits the nail on the head ........My husband and yours sound very much alike . I won't really lose anything that's not already gone to me ,but he still has family (even though our contact is limited ...it is still open ) ...So I guess I shouldn't think only of myself on this matter . For me it is personal to stand up to what I precieved as injustice , but the loss for my husband maybe more than I expect .
Thanks for your input something to really consider .....
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Remember that Elder that stopped by my house in December ?
by troubled mind inwell i ran into him at the grocery store the other night ......why is it that my throat still tightens up and i get this anxious laugh when i talk to him ?
i want to be confident and assertive ,but ultimately i end up acting like a blubbering idiot !.
backstory is that he stopped by in december because i had put winter decorations out on my porch and he wanted to know if we were indeed celebrating christmas now .
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Well I ran into him at the grocery store the other night ......Why is it that my throat still tightens up and I get this anxious laugh when I talk to him ? I want to be confident and assertive ,but ultimately I end up acting like a blubbering idiot !
Backstory is that he stopped by in December because I had put winter decorations out on my porch and he wanted to know if we were indeed celebrating Christmas now . At the time I was sick and told him I didn't have time to talk . He said they would call back ,which of course they never did .
We stopped attending meetings about five yrs ago after over thirty yrs in the congregation as faithful members .Mainly it was my idea to stop because I had become disillusioned over our beliefs ,my husband stopped because he didn't want to keep going by himself .
This Elder has been the only one that has ever stopped by ,he use to be a pretty good friend of ours for all those years . The friendship however was the fake ,insincere kind so prevalent in the Watchtoer society .......... Or maybe it was just us ,maybe we just are not the type that gets close to people .....whatever the case we never felt like we fit the mold . We were never going to be super dubs !
The thing is I really have this desire to be heard .....I want to tell this Elder some (not all) of the reasons I lost faith in the WTS .I want at least one of them to know how I feel about the blood issue ,about the hypocrisy in the congregation and about the emotional and mental anguish I have been through because of this religion ........
My husband suggested we just don't answer the phone or door when they call . We could easily hold them off by not saying anything they don't want to hear . I am very sure this Elder has been putting off talking to us cause he doesn't want to 'have to do anything' about our situation.
I am spending time today writing down some of my thoughts ....maybe I will share them on here first .....
Right now if I just shut up things will remain the same .....if I validate my feelings by voicing my opinions I could push them to DF me for being a spiritual threat .......
Not sure which road I am going to take on this one .......
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Which poster would you like to have a beer (or Pepsi for the sober peeps) with? Why?
by serenitynow! ini've lurking for months, and have enjoyed the various personalities on the board.
i'm pretty sure that i've seen this topic done on an old thread, but i don't want to get my buddy asilentone all riled up by performing a resurrection.
minimus- cause he is funny.
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Thanks White Dove now we are a party of two .....If you knew me then you would know after a few drinks there will be more added to our party because I start talking to strangers when i drink ........